It's Worth The Effort To FEEL What Needs To Be Felt

You're not as weak as you think. Nor are you unworthy of happiness. You are a beautiful, brilliant Child of the Universe who deserves to live a joyful, satisfying Life.

Do you believe that? Do those words resonate or make you wrinkle your nose? Is there a voice in your head saying, "yea. right. what a load of crap."?

I ask these questions because I see too many people using "stuff" to stuff their feelings. Whether it's drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, food, or some other distraction makes no difference. If you're trying to distract yourself from what you really feel, it's NOT going to do you any good to hide. Of course, you already know this, but do you use what you know? Do you take those few seconds to consider that perhaps, if you STOP and just feel what you're feeling, that maybe you can just get it over with once and for all?

There's no easy way to deal with feelings that are less than comfortable. Taking a pill may assuage for a few hours, but the source of those feelings is still there. The reason we even have them (feelings, that is) is so we can look at what is out of place in our lives, and make the necessary changes to feel as good as we want. But you certainly can't do THAT without first facing whatever it is that's causing the discomfort in the first place.

One of the things I do during the course of any given day, is to speak with people who are facing such challenges. Usually, our visits are via phone or webchat, as many of them aren't local. It doesn't seem to matter to them, and of course, not to me either. When you are fully present, it doesn't matter WHAT your location is. Just that you are...FULLY PRESENT. In any case, I may have someone on the phone for a good 15 or 20 minutes before we finally reach the "real" reason they're asking for some help. Sometimes it takes longer. But not usually. Maybe it's my openness or my authentic compassion...whatever it is, the person usually feels comfortable enough to just lay it out there.

Once we have the monster out from under the bed, the rest is usually pretty simple. Because when you break it all down (another of my innate gifts...for which I am deeply grateful!), it's almost always about something so minor that has been blown so out of proportion, that when I offer my perspective, the person will usually say something like,
"OH MY GOD! I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THAT!" or "Holy Crap! It just never occurred to me!" Or the like.

I can always feel the change in their energy when this happens. And it's instantaneously felt by both parties. Sometimes people will sob. Sometimes they'll start yelling angrily. And sometimes, they just sit quietly, as they take it in and 'digest' what they've just discovered.

Regardless of the reaction, the result is usually the same. There is gratitude and a renewed sense of empowerment. There is that deep connection, from one Human Being to another, that tells us both we are NOT alone. And there is, of course, healing.

If you're not quite certain how you might like to go about changing a given situation, or stop avoiding those feelings you keep running from, there really are people out there who can help you. But first, you must make the promise to your SELF. You must take action before you can make changes. It's really not as hard {OR as scary!} as you think. And in the end, you will be so much better off...not to mention...maybe....

HAPPY.